“…forgive and ye shall be forgiven.” (Matthew 6:14-15)
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God didn’t give you parents for them to hurt you. He’s not that kind of God. The God of Heaven and Earth loves children. He would never hurt them. However, when sin is in a person, it causes them to hurt others – including those closest to them and especially their children.
You Deserve Love!
When you get in trouble with your parents, you may feel horrible. The reason for discipline is to help you go in the right direction. Even God disciplines us, and we feel it! He tells us to love His discipline because He only does it to those whom He loves.
Even if it’s hard to believe, you are supposed to be loved. Love is the most important thing that God has for us – His Love, as a loving Father who wants His creation to know Him and to find freedom through His Son, Jesus.
Forgiveness can be one of the hardest things to do. We don’t want to do it. We want our way. We want to see people apologize to us, groveling for our forgiveness – especially when the hurt is really bad. We want to avenge ourselves, but God says, “Vengeance is mine. I will repay.” This means He sees when we’ve been hurt and He will get revenge on that person, especially if they don’t repent.
Some parents make horrible decisions that scar their children for life. They show no regret (repentance) for what they’ve done. They don’t even act as if they did anything wrong. Hurt from our parents runs deeper than any other hurt because they’re our caretakers – even when they’ve never been in our lives, our desire for them doesn’t go away.
Hurt from our parents can run deeper than any other hurt because they’re our caretakers. We’ve been given to them to depend upon. Even when they’ve never been in our lives, our desire to have good parents doesn’t go away. Does this sound like your parent(s)? If so,
When Parents Hurt on Purpose
Some parents are so messed up that they it’s hard to understand why God would allow them to have children. There could be a better way to say it, but I haven’t thought of it, yet. These parents are selfish and don’t think twice about hurting their children, and they’re usually never sorry. They make horrible decisions that scar their children for life. They show no regret (repentance) for what they’ve done. They don’t even act as if they did anything wrong or they blame you for their wrongdoing. NOT OKAY,
When Parents Can’t Seem to Control Their Anger (No Matter How Hard They Try)
These types of parents ask for forgiveness, yet do the same thing over and over again (I was guilty of this). You can tell they want to be a good parent, but, for some reason, they don’t know how to be one. You don’t feel settled with them or like you can trust them with anything because you don’t know when they’re going to blow up. It’s like living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr(s). Hyde.
When Parents Heal Before Having Children
Even the best parents make mistakes. They don’t hold it against themselves nor blame their children. They fix the situation quickly and move onto enjoying life again with their kids. The love for their kids is more important than pride. They don’t live through bad feelings or thoughts. Instead, they choose to have a good life and to make a great one for their children. But, they make choices that can be hurtful, too. They don’t stay stuck in the rut of repeating them over and over, again. They understand that everyone falls short of perfection and want to make sure their children see how to get back up from a fall.
When we forgive our parents, they will probably do the same thing but when we ask God for help and to make changes in our life, He sees our efforts and loves us enough to give us answers.
Even when parents do the most outrageous things to cause their children pain, God requires us to forgive. Forgiveness isn’t punishment from Him. He wants our heart to be healed, and He knows the only way to be fully restored is to forgive those who hurt us. You’re capable of forgiving your parents because you have God to help you. He doesn’t expect you to be able to do it on your own. He doesn’t expect that from any of us. Forgiveness is more than a physical act, it’s spiritual, and just like the physical, with everything spiritual we need Jesus.
Continue your study time with Matthew 18:20-35
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